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A Man Called Daddy

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Proverbs 20:7 The just man walketh in his integrity: his children are blessed after him.

This is my mother’s story.

My mother was born to a great father. He was daddy to nine children and a wonderful “uncle James” to many more. His own father was killed when he was a mere two years old. His dad, a farmer was killed when he was butted and gored by one of his own cows.

So her daddy did not have his own role model.

My mother is the first girl and the third child of nine. She loved her daddy dearly and cannot remember a time when she heard a harsh word pass his lips. By all accounts he was a godly and gentle man, filled with wisdom and love for his family, his friends and his neighbors. He knew God’s words backwards and forward and even as he lay on the verge of transitioning he would redirect anyone on incorrect scripture.

According to my grandfather, a man can be successful and achieve anything if he is determined to work hard, always saved a portion of his earnings and if he is blessed with a contented wife!

My mom remembers that as a farmer, (he farmed vegetables and rice and reared animals), he would always share with his community. If anyone stole his produce he would theorize that they needed it more than he did.

He would frown upon abuse of any kind especially that of men and their wives. My grandpa grew up with little, that was soon after slavery was abolished, (my patriarchal side of the family were instrumental in the abolishment of slavery, I am so proud of my heritage). My grandfather and his brothers would purchase land together with other relatives and as such he was able to leave a sizeable legacy for his children. 

My mother, her siblings and everyone who knew my grandpa, remembers him as a kind, wise and blessed soul.

My mother has expressed that she will be buried alongside her father as there is nowhere else she would rather spend eternity. Now that speaks volumes for the daddy he was!

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I wish all his grandchildren had gotten to know him.

I called him daddy as well and remember a kind and gentle man who told his grandkids stories sitting under a tree in the backyard. I was 6 years old when he died.

I am sure today is “Father’s Day” in heaven as well, where great daddys’ are rewarded for serving their children well.

 

41 thoughts on “A Man Called Daddy

  1. I like your story. Happy father’s day.

    1. Happy fathers day to you as well. I appreciate the support.

  2. I like this part – “According to my grandfather, a man can be successful and achieve anything if he is determined to work hand, always saved a portion of his earnings and if he is blessed with a contented wife!”

    Thanks for sharing this one… keep on blogging….

    1. Lol, thank you so much for checking it out.

  3. Your grandfather sounds like an amazing person… thanks for sharing him with us…
    Happy Father’s Day

    1. Happy father’s day. My grandmother was a woman of steel and he had the gentle spirit.

  4. Beautiful tribute

  5. Powerful story!

    1. Thank you.

  6. So touching and powerful! You are blessed. Indeed, the memory of the righteous is blessed.

    1. Thank you my dear.

  7. I love this post, it is very important to live up to one’s integrity because it speaks loud about who you are in life and in death. i read and visualized the humbling times where community love was showed in abundance.

    1. Those were the good days when the village was indeed raising each other.

  8. I really liked this sweet story about A Man Called Daddy! You and your family are blessed!

    1. Thank you Ms DeborahMarie. How are you keeping.

      1. I’m doing well, thank you! I’m keeping busy with “this and that.” Now that summer is finally here, it feels like it is flying by and hopefully, prayerfully, we will be starting back to school in another month! There is much to pray about these days. My heart breaks for all we are going through as a nation. Knowing God is on His throne and in control gives me peace during these troubled times. Pene, I am thankful that we are friends and sisters in Christ.❤️🌷

        1. Yes my sister. The world is in such bad shape right now, but God is still on the throne, so we continue to trust and pray.
          Yes it does seem like time is passing rapidly sometimes, then again a little so on other days. But we are planting our garden, the fruit trees did not bear as much this year and the truth is we were so preoccupied we did not pay them too much mind.
          Cases continue to rise in Texas but they did say school would reopen, we will have to wait and see.

  9. So touching! Good story.

    1. Thank you so much for reading. you are always so very supportive.

  10. So much love coming through your words. Thanks 🙂

    1. Thank you for reading.

  11. My Dad’s name was James. What a wonderful family legacy you have. Your grandpa seemed like a great man. ❤️

    1. My dad is James as well (a different kind of James) we do not have any relationship.

      1. My cousin just lost her father and she was sad because they had no relationship.

        1. I understand her grief. It’s the finality that there is now no hope. But the bible promises that God will wipe the tears from our eyes and be a father to the fatherless.
          I can truly understand some of what she feels. I made a conscious decision to let mine go as I could find nothing good there. Then when he had no interest in my kids I decided I was not going to put them through that, I realized he had not matured at all.

          1. Yes, I agree. There’s the realization she will never know him now. She said in her 62 years he never gave her anything except a high school graduation gift. But God’s love as a Father is a blessing. I’m glad she knows Him too. That’s great God gave you wisdom to make the best decision for you and your kids.

            1. Have a great day my sister!

              1. You too! 🤗

  12. Beautiful, moving, inspiring. Thank you.

  13. Wow. He is indeed a “daddy”. Smiles, you know growing up I always said men who were good fathers are those I call “daddy”. It seems like a tag for someone closer, yeah, don’t mind me. 🙂 🙈
    I am glad you had him in your life and your mum had an earthly role model to look up to as well. ❤

    1. Thank you my dear.

      1. You are welcome sis. ❤

  14. Great post!
    I’ve nominated you for the ideal inspiration blogger award. Hope you accept it 💙

  15. Beautiful!

    1. Thank you for reading.

      1. It’s a pleasure. I love reading about fathers who made a difference as mine died when I was 6 years old. I feel like I missed out.

        1. I understand you on that front. This story was about my grandpa. My dad is still alive but was never present.

          1. Oh dear, I am sorry to hear. 😢

            1. No problem, I am way past that relationship woes now. Have a great day!

  16. That’s great advice from your grandpa 👴

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